Firstly, congratulations on your engagement! Secondly, you’ll find that as soon as you get engaged, everyone is suddenly an expert on weddings. Everyone will want to impart their own piece of valuable wisdom but don’t be put off, you’ll get a couple of pearls you’ll want to make a note of.
Before you start thinking about planning, here are our top tips to help enjoy your wedding journey and stay stress free!
- 1. Take some time to enjoy your engagement.
Time flies when you get fully immersed in wedding planning and it is so easy to get carried away with it all – I know I did! Before the madness begins, make sure you ride the high of getting engaged.
- 2. Set a budget as early as possible
Weddings are expensive. There’s no getting away from that. Everything wedding related seems to have a premium, but there are ways to keep costs down. You might find that the budget you’ve set isn’t realistic however if you have a figure in mind that you want to stick to it will prevent you running away with yourself – so easy to do with all things wedding-y!
- 3. Get organised
As soon as you have chosen a venue, most other things will fall in to place. It is really easy to book the big things and leave everything else for later on, but the last few months before your wedding will bring new challenges so the less you have to worry about, the better. The big things are really important; the venue, the catering, the entertainment but the big things are also the easy things. Also remember that a lot of wedding suppliers book up to 2 years in advance. My husband was puzzled when, after booking the venue, I went full steam ahead into sorting the photographer, the save the dates, the decor among other things. However, he thanked me in the end as pretty much a year before the wedding we were almost ready to go and the months leading up to the wedding were very relaxed. Things like favours, decorations, invites, flowers, and cake will all take you a lot longer to decide on and source so thinking about these earlier will save you lots of time in the long run. Write yourself lists, post-its or keep a wedding book handy so you can jot down ideas and tick things off as you go.
- 4. Accept the help of family and friends
I am a control freak, and the more creative you are the more you will want to be in complete and total control of your wedding plans. But be warned, people will want to help and you should be prepared to let them. Planning a wedding is a huge task and there are so many things to do and think about. Even delegating the smallest task will help. Think about roping in your friends and family into helping with favours or decorations? I had a production line of bridesmaids, friends and female family members around for a mini-hen do to help put favours together (hot chocolate bags) and tie ribbons around jars. It was so much fun and everyone loved getting involved.
- 5. Remember why you’re getting married
Perhaps my most important piece of advice; never lose sight of why you’re getting married in the first place. Yes, you want it to be an incredible day and yes, you want everyone to enjoy themselves, but the most exciting thing is that you’re marrying the person that you love. You’re making a commitment to a new adventure and spending your lives together. Nothing else matters.